Since the age of 12, I’ve been regularly wearing makeup, but that’s not where my love for it began. I’ve always had a deep-seated love for makeup, and my tomboy, rebellious, Avril Lavigne stages of my preteen-hood didn’t stop me from wearing it either. I was doing my own stage makeup for dance recitals by the age of eight and teaching my uninterested little sister all of my “tricks” around the same time. I discovered YouTube beauty gurus in middle school and my knowledge grew. By high school, I was a makeup pro (or so they said), doing my friends’ makeup for music shows, musicals, and prom.
It was only recently that I decided to go an entire week without makeup for the first time in years. Though it was exhilarating, my heart always lies with putting on and confidently wearing makeup. So, when my friends and family like to comment on my makeup in a negative way, I don’t take it lightly. I typically shrug it off or ignore what they say, but my head spins and my chest sinks.
People think it’s a compliment. They think that by saying, “Oh, but you look so much prettier without makeup!” or “I wish you wouldn’t wear so much makeup…you look so much better without it!” they are doing me a favor. They’re not.
Because the black-and-white fact is this: I’m not wearing makeup to please you. I’m doing it to please me, myself, and I.
Yes, I wear makeup to look pretty. Yes, I wear makeup because it gives me a smidgen more of confidence. But I wear makeup because I like it, because I want to.
I wear makeup for a variety of reasons, some of which are below. Ultimately, though, I just enjoy makeup — the feel of it on my face, putting it on in the morning, looking at myself with it on in the mirror. Makeup makes me happy.
Yeah, I wear makeup because I think it makes me look good.
And, yeah, I think it makes me look prettier. It defines my natural features and enhances them. YOU may not think it makes me look prettier, but I do. And saying that I look “better” without it, when I’ve obviously put a lot of work and money into it, isn’t very nice…even if you think it is.
“Happiness doesn’t stem from other people. It stems from yourself. If you are a woman who loves the way you look with/without make up then you should rock that look.”
And I wear makeup because it DOES give me more confidence.
I’m not saying that without makeup I have no confidence. I’m just saying that it gives me MORE confidence. I have that extra “pep in my step” when I go outside because I KNOW I look good.
“I choose to wear makeup because I like to have that extra pep in my step when I walk into a room because I feel confident having a full face of makeup on.”
I also enjoy playing with makeup and putting it on every morning.
I’ve always been a more artistic person. That’s evident in my love for makeup too. One of the first things that I loved about makeup was the fact that I could do whatever I wanted with it. I can play around with all sorts of looks and styles. I’ve sat in front of a mirror doing this for hours on end, and I like it. Putting it on every morning is almost therapeutic for me — it’s ritualistic and calming and I look forward to doing it.
“Personally, i use makeup as an art form. It’s so fun to sit down and see how I can transform my face. When someone tells me I look better without all of it, it doesn’t feel good because it’s something I’ve worked hard on and I think looks good.”
So, to sum it up, I don’t put makeup on for you, I put it on for me. It’s nice when people are impressed by my makeup looks, but I’m not necessarily looking to impress. I wear makeup because it makes me happier and more confident. I like how I look naturally too, but picking up that makeup brush and sweeping that bronzer across my face makes me feel really great, and that’s why I do it.
Next time you think about telling someone they look better without makeup, stop and think for a moment. Is this a compliment? Or is this a way of telling them what you think they should be doing? As the old saying goes: my body, my choice.
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